The Calendar Conundrum: One Partner's Plea for Shared Scheduling

In the latest installment of 'You Be the Judge,' a reader seeks arbitration over a domestic dispute: his girlfriend's reluctance to use their shared digital calendar. The complainant, a meticulous planner, argues that the couple's joint calendar is a tool for harmony, but his partner treats it more like a suggestion box than a binding schedule. He recounts missed appointments and double-booked evenings as evidence of the system's failure. His girlfriend, however, counters that spontaneity shouldn't be sacrificed for over-organization. The question put to readers: is a shared calendar a necessary glue for modern relationships, or a killjoy device? [Full column continues with humorous back-and-forth and reader poll.]