The VA Buddy Check program is one of the most direct tools in veteran suicide prevention—a regular call or visit to a fellow veteran that costs nothing and requires no credential. This program encourages veterans to check on each other, especially those who may be isolated or struggling.
What the Buddy Check Program Is
The Buddy Check program is a peer-to-peer initiative where veterans reach out to other veterans, simply to ask how they are doing. The goal is to reduce suicide by fostering connection and providing support before a crisis occurs.
How to Have the Conversation
Start with a simple, genuine question like, "How are you really doing?" Listen without judgment, and avoid giving unsolicited advice. If the veteran shares they are struggling, acknowledge their feelings and offer to help connect them with resources.
Warning Signs and When to Escalate
Look for signs such as talking about wanting to die, feeling hopeless, withdrawing from friends, or giving away prized possessions. If you observe any of these, encourage the veteran to call the Veterans Crisis Line at 988 (press 1) or take them to the nearest VA emergency room.
Building a Buddy Check Network
Create a list of veterans you know and commit to contacting them at least once a month. Use phone calls, texts, or in-person visits. The key is consistency—knowing someone cares can make all the difference.
For more information, visit the VA's official Buddy Check resources or contact your local VA medical center.