For decades, midlife has been synonymous with crisis. But psychologist Margie Lachman, who has spent over 30 years studying the 40-to-60 age range, argues that this stage of life is often misunderstood—and can actually be a period of growth and satisfaction.
Lachman, a professor of psychology at Brandeis University and director of the Lifespan Lab, was part of the landmark Midlife in the United States study, which has tracked thousands of adults since 1994. Her own experience—entering midlife as she studied it—shaped her perspective. “I’m looking back on it now, but I loved midlife,” she says.
In her new book, Primetime: A New Vision For Midlife, Lachman challenges the negative stereotype. According to her research, the idea that midlife is inevitably unhappy or defined by a dramatic pivot is “flat-out wrong.” In fact, life satisfaction often remains stable or even increases during these years.
Common Challenges, Not a Crisis
Lachman notes that many people in midlife face unique pressures, such as caring for both children and aging parents—a phenomenon known as the “sandwich generation.” Physical changes like gray hair and wrinkles can also trigger anxiety. But these challenges are not a crisis; they’re opportunities for reflection and growth.
The Myth of the Midlife Crisis
When Lachman asked older adults if they had experienced a midlife crisis, only about 26% said yes—and their explanations varied widely, including divorce, job loss, or health issues that could happen at any age. “Crisis is a very strong term,” she says. “It’s empowering to realize you want to tweak some things and that you have the opportunity.”
Looking Forward
As younger generations delay milestones like homeownership and parenthood, Lachman predicts that midlife itself may shift, with people in their 60s still caring for children or changing careers. She also emphasizes that feeling young—whether through attitude or cosmetic choices—can positively impact health.
Ultimately, Lachman’s message is optimistic: midlife is not a decline but a “primetime” for personal growth, purpose, and satisfaction.